VICTORIOUS LIVING INSPIRATIONS

How do you deal with a hurt that never happened? Studies show that as much as “75% of all hurts never happened. People are accused of things they never did or for motives they never had” (Truman Scott). Are you harboring resentment unnecessarily? PERCEIVED hurt is sometimes more damaging than INTENTIONAL hurt. While you think the other party intentionally meant to hurt you, that perception created animosity and divisiveness when the source was completely innocent. In turn, you are hurting more than the other party. Change your view. Learn to deal with what’s real and not what is perceived. Don’t waste time and energy angry. Take the time to talk to the individual, listen nonjudgementally, and choose to forgive. You may find that what you PERCEIVED wasn’t what they INTENDED. Simplify your life. Choose to forgive. Let go of the resentment and live victoriously. You will feel so much better when you do. #choosetoforgive #letitgo #livevictoriously #keepitsimple

SPEAK LIFE... Compassion - sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. When there is genuine love and compassion for people, there is no desire to judge them based on their outward behavior. You begin to not only focus on what they do, but you are more concerned about why they do it. COMPASSION is the ability or desire to look beyond the faults of another and minister to their need. My training and experience in addiction counseling taught me to look at the "why" and not the "what". There is a root cause to the outward behavior of people. But so often, we either don't want to or are not adequately trained to deal with the root. That leads us to judge what we don't understand. I learned to put myself in their shoes. I learned not to judge what I don't understand but to seek understanding so that I'm not guilty of being judgmental. I realized that much of the negative behavior from people is stemming from past hurt

Often, when people are going through painful experiences in their life, they have a tendency to "sweep them under the rug" and ignore them. Ignored feelings are never healed. By "masking" our depression, we try to protect our hearts and hide who we really are and what we really do not want to face. Paula White is famous for saying, "You can't conquer what you don't confront". You can't conquer it if you don't face it. De-masking is about facing the situation that is keeping your from being free in your mind. People who are depressed often prefer dark spaces and dark rooms over light. There is a quote that reads: "Never let anyone dull your shine".  Never let anyone, any situation, any circumstance or any problem dull your shine.  Jesus is the light of the world. It is His light that we need when depression tries to keep us in darkness. Never be afraid to admit the painful truths about your life to God. Allow Him to work thr

Each year, Audrey Dinkins host THE MOST POWERFUL and EXPLOSIVE Women Conferences. She is not a pastor, evangelist, pastor’s wife, etc. In fact, I have never even heard her speak aside from giving final remarks. She LITERALLY takes a back seat and watches as others go forth to help bring healing and deliverance. She is ONE person with ONE BIG idea. Whenever crisis hits and people are hurting, I often see the question asked, “Where are the Pastors?” or “What are the pastors doing?” These are good questions with two very simple answers: ‘Visible’ and ‘A lot’.  Much of what they do is not publicized. They often take a back seat while equipping and mobilizing others to serve. They are boots on the ground doing outreach, visiting the jails, prisons, hospitals and nursing homes; serving on community boards giving insight and input into what they see can be done to make community better. They are actively giving wise counsel to the ideas of others, mentoring and empowering youth, walk